Ephesians 5:21-6:9 Spirit-Guided Relationships: Wives and Husbands = August 21

Spirit-Guided Relationships: Wives and Husbands
Ephesians 5:21-6:9

Intro Questions

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• God is ... What do we learn about God in this passage?
• We are ... What do we learn about people in this passage?
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• I will ... What has the Holy Spirit revealed to us in this passage? How can I apply it to my life this week?
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• You can ... Who do you know who needs to hear this? Feel free to share with others by social media links at the bottom of this.

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Prison Epistles

Living For God in Your Home

Ephesians 5:21-6:9

   Your Chance to Change the World — For the sake of argument, let me assume that you have a career. There is something for which you see yourself best suited to make a living. You expect that career to make it possible for you to pay your bills, take care of your family responsibilities, and provide a certain standard of living. You probably also expect it to provide certain less-tangible rewards as titles and social standing.
    But do you also have a calling? Consistent with the way most people hear that term, a calling involves a clear sense of being commissioned by God for some task. It is your pursuit of the sovereignty of God over who you are and what you are doing with your life. It is the sense that God's hand is on you and that he has a sense of genuine pleasure in what you are doing.
    The real secret to fulfillment in one's life is to have career and calling merged into one. Don't you suspect the apostle Paul viewed his as one and the same? But what about you?
    I believe God has given you an opportunity to make a difference in the world. I am convinced he wants you to change the world. And I further believe that he wants you to see your job, business, profession or retirement as an extension of the kingdom of heaven. Here's what I mean by all this.
    The sense that one's career is also a holy calling shouldn't startle us. If slaves-become-Christians were counseled to "render service with enthusiasm, as to the Lord and not to men and women, knowing that whatever good we do, we will receive the same again from the Lord" (Ephesians 6:7-8), then surely you are supposed to be the best employee or employer the Acme Widget Company has ever seen. If not, why not?
    Above paycheck or promotion, do something that contributes to the good of your world. Let your routine tasks reflect the character and excellence heaven is building into your life. Understand that your work is inseparable from your spiritual life -- and reflects its authenticity. When your faith cleanses and consecrates your workplace to God, you have found a calling larger than your career.
    Solomon put it this way: "There is nothing better for mortals than to eat and drink, and find enjoyment in their work. This, I saw, is from the hand of God; for apart from him who can eat or who can have enjoyment?" (Ecclesiastes 2:24-25).
    How will you change the world today? God is ready to be your partner.
 

Opening Questions — Get Us Thinking:

· Which of these TV families reflects your family: Cleavers? Flintstones? Bradys? Huxtables? Waltons?

Instructions for Christian Households – Ephesians 5:21-6:9

21Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

22Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Chapter 6

1Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2“Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3“so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”

4Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

5Slaves, obey your earthly masters with respect and fear, and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ. 6Obey them not only to win their favor when their eye is on you, but as slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from your heart. 7Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not people, 8because you know that the Lord will reward each one for whatever good they do, whether they are slave or free.

9And masters, treat your slaves in the same way. Do not threaten them, since you know that he who is both their Master and yours is in heaven, and there is no favoritism with him.

Research Questions — “Dig Deeper” to find God’s Will

1. God is ... What do we learn about God?

2. We are ... What do we learn about people?

3. How do verses 18-21, on the indwelling, affect your attitude toward these verses on submission?

4. Christ’s love led him to die to us. What would it mean for a husband to live with his wife with this type of love vv. 25-33? How did Christ act on his headship?

5. Paul begins with the statement, “Husbands, love your wives.” It sounds like such a simple statement, but what does he mean? What does it mean to love?

6. How did your parents approach marriage? Two masters? Two Servants? What is the goal of Christian marriage? v. 31?

7. It is sometimes said that if the husband were the kind of spiritual leader he should be, the submission of the wife would be easy. How “easy” is it for us to follow Christ’s leadership? v. 33

8. What does it mean to “honor your parents”? To bring up children in the Lord without exasperating them?

9. How many of us own slaves? Who among us is a slave?

10. If you work for someone, how are you to look upon your job? If you are the boss, how are you to look upon your employees? Can you hold to these principles today in your business and still make it?

Reflective Questions — Live it today.

1. What does a wife do when the husband does not take spiritual leadership?

2. Whom do you look up to as a good role model for marriage?

3. What is God saying to you about your spouse? Family?

4. I will ... What has the Holy Spirit revealed to you in this passage? How will you apply it to your life this week?

5. You can ... Who do you know who needs to hear this?

6. How does this equip us be a better disciple and help empower us to “make disciples”?

The Cherokee marriage-ceremony is very expressive. The man and woman join hands over running water, to indicate that their lives are thenceforth to flow on in one stream.

Living For Jesus in Ephesians 5:14-29
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This week (Ephesians 5:14-29), we finish the section on renewing the personal life of a believer and then begin the section on personal relationships that are willing to defer.

Living For Jesus in Ephesians 5:28-6:9

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Today we are learning from Ephesians 5:28-6:9 about relationships where we defer to the other In marriage, in the home and at work.

An Ordered Life (Ephesians 5-6)
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A Wife’s 3 Greatest Needs


Wives, just like husbands, have many needs, but what are three of the greatest needs that a wife has?


Your Love
I believe that we all need love and to give love, but love might be the greatest need of all for her, next to her relationship with Christ. Telling your wife verbally that you love her is important, but showing it by your actions is more important. Love is not just in word but in deed, as the Apostle John wrote, “… let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth” (1 John 3:18). Love is a verb more than a feeling. Love is proactive. Jesus didn’t depend on His feelings to make Him go to the cross. He did it because He knew it was our only way to be saved. Show your wife you love her by sending her a card in the mail, by bringing her flowers, taking her out to dinner, scheduling a “bed and breakfast” weekend, taking out the trash, or whatever else you see that you can do to help her and show your love for her. Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church (Eph. 5:25).

Your Attention
I am so guilty of this. My wife says something and my body language acknowledges it, but it doesn’t sink in. Shame on me. Instead of burying myself in thought, the paper, or even the Bible, I need to look my wife straight in the eyes and give her my full attention. She might not want me to solve whatever she is talking about, but she does want me to listen. It is so disrespectful when someone says something to you and you don’t even acknowledge what they said by words or by nodding your head. Men, are you really listening to your wife? Could you repeat the last sentence she said? Drop whatever it is you had going on, including the remote if necessary, and stop, look, and listen. She deserves your attention, don’t you think?

Your Faithfulness
Surely, we husbands need to remain faithful to our wives. That is clearly commanded in Scripture. By remaining faithful to her, I mean not only avoiding adultery and pornography but avoiding commenting about other husband’s wives or looking at other women with lust. Men can so easily commit adultery of the heart. It’s like we’re hardwired that way, but we are supposed to be new creations in Christ, as Paul wrote, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come” (2 Cor. 5:17). When we are born again, we are given a new nature, as Ezekiel wrote, “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you” (Ezek. 36:26a), and as such, we were “buried with him through baptism into death in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life” (Rom. 6:4).

Conclusion
Obviously, there are a lot more than three things a wife needs that are not listed here, but surely we recognize that we need to love our wives as Christ loved the church. That means a life-sacrificing life of serving her. We need to give her our full attention when she is talking, and we need to be ever faithful to our bride, for she is a gift of God. We should treat her as such.

May God richly bless you,
Pastor Jack Wellman

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4 Key Ways the Enemy Attacks Your Marriage


The Enemy finds many ways to try and destroy marriages. What are four of the many ways that the Enemy uses to attack marriages?

Lack of Trust
Trust is part of the foundation structure of any marriage and when trust is lacking, there is doubt, fear, and uncertainty in all areas of the marriage. We should hold no secrets with our marriage partner and when we do, we either don’t trust them or we are hiding something from them. The Enemy would love nothing more than to create an atmosphere of mistrust and suspicion between the marriage partners. I have known couples who check one another’s email, text messages, and voice mail without their knowing it. That is a deadly sign that trust is missing from their relationship, a relationship that should be the most trustworthy of all on earth.

Pornography
This scourge may be the single, greatest contributing factor in couples lacking sexual satisfaction. With each passing exposure to pornographic material, the person who is addicted increasingly becomes more dissatisfied with their partner’s sexually satisfying them. Their pornographic addiction becomes like a drug; it takes increasingly graphic doses (or exposure) to satisfy the person until it becomes next to impossible for their mate to ever fully satisfy them again. When the innocent spouse continues to be neglected, their risk for having an affair increases because they are not being sexually fulfilled at home either. Also, pornography devalues women and men too as the rates of pornographic addictions are also increasing among women. The Enemy must love this because it is an addiction that he tempts them with and then he just sits back and watches them self-destruct.

Finances
With the economic uncertainty of the times and the growing debt among families, the tensions created by living on the edge of financial ruin greatly stresses the family and that is why money is one of the greatest causes for separation and divorce. Recent indicators are that families once again are increasing their debt which can only put families at greater risk for divorce. The Enemy wants you to spend freely today and don’t worry about tomorrow’s consequences.

Domestic Violence
With all of the recent news about violence in the home, domestic violence in the form of spousal abuse and child abuse is ripping families apart at the seams. Sometimes the combination of a lack of trust, pornography, adultery, financial difficulties, problematic children, all can contribute, but not excuse, an increase in domestic violence. When couples fail to put on the full armor of God, they are vulnerable to spiritual attacks and fail to resist the enemy and can become more like him…who was a murderer from the beginning (John 8:44).

Conclusion
The Enemy would love nothing more than to destroy the institution of marriage because marriages are the foundation of any nation and when the foundations crumble, so too will the nation. God help us all to live the model that Christ revealed to us; to love one another and to live lives of self-sacrifice. As Paul wrote, we ought not to think more highly of ourselves than we should (Rom 12:3); maybe even not think about ourselves at all and to “love one another in brotherly (and sisterly) affection” (Rom 12:10) so my advice to you is as Paul’s is; “let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband” (Eph 5:33).
May God richly bless you,
Pastor Jack Wellman

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WHAT GOOD ARE FATHERS?
Dr. Joe Pettigrew

“Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise: “that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.” Ephesians 6:2-3

Happy Late Father’s Day.

Whether you call him Dad, Papa, Pops, or Father, his role as head of the home demands selfless sacrifices with big responsibilities. God commissions a father to care for the children entrusted to him, to teach them God’s ways—leading by example.

Yesterday may have been challenging for you. Perhaps your father didn’t fulfill his responsibilities as he should have or was abusive. Maybe you grew up without a father, or he’s no longer living. You may feel fatherless. We’re all created by, and for God, so we’ve got to get the picture of who God is, right.It’s no secret that fathers are very powerful in shaping the identity of their children, and giving them confidence in life.

Numerous studies link fatherlessness to a variety of social issues, from depression to poor academic performance and experiences of abuse. The role of fatherhood is one God intended to be modeled from His own example, and that’s why it can be so rewarding when we do it well, but so damaging when something goes wrong.

All of us were wired for this relationship with God, so we have a special connection to our dads. That’s not to say mothers aren’t amazing, but when Dad gets home what do their kids say? “Daddy watch me!” They want to hear Dad say, “Way to go girl, or well done big guy.” We long for approval and blessing from our fathers from birth.

When talking to Louie Giglio about fatherhood a few years ago, he shared with me this story. His own father died prematurely. He had a conversation with his dad close to the end of his life that explained a lot about their relationship.

“My dad was amazing,” Louie said, “but he and I didn’t have common ground around our faith in Jesus which was awkward given I was called to preach.We had a lot of ups and downs in our relationship, but he was a great guy. At the end of his life, a few years before he died, we were talking in the hospital one day, and he told me that he’d never been loved and he’d never been wanted by his parents. He didn’t believe God loved him or wanted him either. I could hardly catch my breath, but for the first time I saw my dad not as a father, but as a son.”

We must be willing to forgive our dad, and move forward from the pain they may have caused us. For some, it’s hard to imagine wanting to “bless” your dad. Especially if you’re estranged and uncomfortable with the concept of a perfect, loving father in God.

People have told me flat out, I will never forgive my dad for what he did to me and my family. I get that, it’s real, and we can’t just sweep all that under the rug. God isn’t asking us to do that.

Whether your father is one of the best or fell short, there’s a perfect Dad waiting to embrace you as His own. His name is God the Father. He’s good and full of unconditional love. He wants to adopt you and make you a King’s kid.

Thought of the Day
If you don’t know the Father, ask Jesus to introduce you to His. God promises this, “I will be a Father to you and you will be my sons and daughters.”